Should We Tell the Kids?

We share our own experience of walking through those conversations with our boys after Heather’s affair and how those discussions changed as they grew older. When they were young, we focused on what they needed to know. As they matured, we were able to share more of our story and help them understand not only what happened, but what God had done in the years that followed.

Every family is different, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer. But we’ve generally found that leaning toward honesty is healthier than carrying secrets. When children see parents acknowledge failures, take responsibility, and pursue healing, they gain a front-row seat to God’s redemption at work.

In this episode, we talk about age-appropriate conversations and how sharing your story can create a culture of honesty that impacts your family for generations.